How to sound more natural in English conversations: Filler words edition

Cami
Jun 5
3 min read

Hey there!

Have you ever noticed how native English speakers rarely talk in perfectly formed and polished sentences? They hesitate, they pause and throw in words like “you know”, “like”, “actually” or “I mean”.

It might seem a bit messy, but here is the thing: those little words (called fillers) are doing more than “just” filling space. They are great to soften opinions, buy thinking time (I mean… we can't always know what to say, right?), show hesitation or signal you are about to say something important.

And when used intentionally, they can help you sound more fluent, natural and confident too.

So… What are fillers?

Fillers are those small, often vague words or sounds we use in conversation that do not carry direct meaning, but they do carry a function.

Native speakers use them constantly. And no, they are not just signs of being unprepared or unsure. They are part of authentic, fluent speech, especially in informal or spontaneous conversation.

Let’s break down a few of the most common ones and how to use them like a pro.

5 fillers that native speakers use all the time (and how to use them)

1. You know 🤔

Function: This one is great to use when you want to invite agreement, soften a statement or check that the other person understands what you mean.

e.g. It’s been a tough week, you know?

2. Like 🗯️

Function: Very useful for giving an example, making your idea sound more relaxed or showing that you are not being 100% exact.

e.g. I was, like, really surprised when she said that.

🔎 Advanced Tip: Do not overuse “like” in formal settings

3. Sort of / Kind of 🤏

Function: This filler adds uncertainty or politeness, especially when giving opinions.

e.g. It’s sort of a weird situation, to be honest

4. I mean… 🫣

Function: A great option that clarifies or rephrases what you have just said.

e.g. I wasn’t angry… I mean, I was just frustrated

5. Actually ✅

Function: A filler word that is an excellent choice when wanting to express surprise, correct something or add emphasis.

e.g. I actually quite enjoyed it, in the end

WHY this matters for advanced learners:

If you are already confident with grammar and vocabulary, mastering the rhythm of natural speech is your next step. Fillers help you do just that.

They give your English a more relaxed, real-life feel. And, crucially, they give you a moment to think without freezing up, because even native speakers do not speak in perfect, linear sentences.

✨ It is not about sounding perfect. It is about sounding real.

A few quick Do’s and Don’ts

✅ Do listen for fillers in real-life conversations, podcasts and interviews.

✅ Do practise using them naturally in low-pressure conversations.

❌ Don’t stuff them into every sentence. If you use them too much, you could sound like you feel nervous or unsure.

❌ Don’t use them in formal writing or academic situations.

Fillers might seem insignificant, but they are actually a sign that you are reaching a high level of fluency, where tone, nuance and rhythm matter just as much as grammar.

So next time you are in a conversation, do not be afraid to say things like “I mean…” or “you know”. Used well, they do not make your English worse, they make it more authentic.

👉 Do you want to practise using fillers in real conversation?

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Until next time,

Benjamin & Cami